Choosing is both a blessing and a curse as described in this chapter by Barry Schwartz. Many believe that being able to choose things for ourselves ultimately leads to us being more happy but that’s not always the case. Nowadays there’s an overwhelming amount of choices for us. There’s so many options that it create stress. Choosing what we want for a career, who we want to be with romantically, even something as simple as what do we want for dinner. When we have so many options it can be overwhelming to think about if we are making the right choice. Like with modern dating. With the people we are now able to be exposed to through a combination of online dating, school, work, the option for a romantic partner are endless leaving us to wonder could I have made a better choice? Who else is out there that might be even better for me? I know I’ve certainly had this mindset at times.
Another factor that plays into choice and happiness is are social relationships. We choose who we want to surround ourselves which can ultimately have effects on other choices we make. For example, we may want to make a choice that our friends or family don’t agree with but decide not to because we don’t want to be judged by them. Society holds a lot of weight over choices we make because there’s an invisible pressure on us to make the “right” choices. The same thing can happen with having to choose a career path. As a child parents tell us we can be whatever we want to be. Then as we learn about all the different choices for careers and it puts this pressure of “am I making the right choice” on us.
Having choices and happiness don’t always go hand in hand. Sometimes having fewer choices can be less of a burden on us than having unlimited ones. For example, kids living in poorer countries are seen playing with their friends on the street and aren’t concerned if they have the latest iphone or computer. They don’t have as many options in terms of ways to entertain themselves and yet you see they are content and happy. Having unlimited options can cause depression but how can we solve this issue of choice when options are still ever expanding. I honestly don’t know the real answer to this.
